Have you ever been grocery shopping and came across a cart full of can goods marked down significantly? I mean, at a deep discount! What ordinarily would be $1 or $2 is priced at 5¢ ? Most figure it to be a great deal! Peaches, corn, sweet peas, etc. from a fantastic brand and you’d figure ... “hmmm... what’s the catch?” Upon further perusing, you’d find dents, labels that are tattered, and even rust on occasion typically found in abundance where all can see but everyone is overlooking ...
Folks, do you know WHY these are marked down? In fact, do you understand WHY these items aren’t able to be returned? It’s the potential of botulism ...
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for the sake of the message of this blog, stay within the parameters of the content ... this is for the purpose of growth.
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These cans, metaphorically speaking, are unhealed people looking for an intimate relationship. You see, life’s challenges that were met by and received by these people have left perceptive damages on them. Be it from a production standpoint, mishandling from negligence, and even expired dates from extended shelf life from a multitude of unknown conditions.
Sure, we love a great deal! But because we are aware of warnings, would it be best to ignore our greater judgement for the risk of being sick ... physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually ? Once consumed, the risk of becoming sick is legitimate, and at that point, it’s most definitely too late to change our minds right ? Finding yourself with your face in a shameful place, like a toilet bowl ... life’s toilet bowl! Fitting place for the choice, though your intention wasn’t there right? or maybe...
You see, those early signs of abuse were ignored. It isn’t to say that an unhealed person isn’t worthy of love, the issue is however, they haven’t accepted their own worthiness. Victims of all of their circumstances indefinitely, never to truly understand any of their role in past experiences while insisting on blame-shift, surrounded by negativity and deny that they too are grouped with what isn’t "good" (say, a person that have a lot of promiscuous friends) ... proclaiming their goodness unlike the others surrounding it (however, they consult these "friends" with relationship advice) ... and yet, they are in reach for anyone willing to make it a part of any major undertaking (Like a dinner - progressive ascension).
They have flawed premises, that because you’ve chosen to be with them, that they possess you. That because you care for them, that your focus should solely be on them or about them. That they are great, but cannot perceive of the constant drain and toll placed on you. That if there is an issue within the relationship, that YOU should be solely responsible for remedy. They cannot understand why you, a great person, has came into their awareness, only to be tarnished by them at signs of disharmony. Tarnish meaning, your reputation becomes damaged through your association with them, from their influence no-less, while having to decide how to maintain your character and whether or not to validate the claims. Let's not forget their lack of remorse in the ill state of being that you have acquired while trying to "make things work" ... great deal right?? These kind of people are externally focused, changing as a condition does, unknown to them that their habits produced these conditions. In truth, they've placed a responsibility on you to be their function of happiness ... how dare you refuse?
Oh, and in cases of infidelity, well, they probably won't care, as the other person is receiving their affection anyway. The same affection that you are working to earn! Yes, you've read it correct. Love is free flowing, not effort-ing. This isn’t about buyer’s remorse, surely everything hasn't been all bad, but as soon as the facade end, there is an understanding that indeed, something is wrong with the content within!
Do not be the one saying: “well, sure there are green and blue fuzzy things unnatural to this growing in it, but I can make it better with love and I’ll be fine!”
Maybe. Or you can choose simply to not consume that or what is coming from it.Why fight against the natural impulses that you are born with? Is it the need to be acknowledged? If so, just as the unhealed person may have victim complex, YOU may have messiah complex, and you too may be unhealed. This is a relationship that is born to die the way it started: in shock!
Just remember, you become what you consume and produce more of it. If botulism is your thing, have at it. Can’t say that your favorite life coach didn’t warn ya!
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On a serious note, if you are in need of healing from traumatic experiences, reach out! Book your consultation! It’s FREE! During consultation I’ll help you understand the issue, and with contract, we’ll install habits that promote healthy change and expansion (paradigm shift). There’s a lot going for you, don’t fight your natural impulses.
Til later, with divine love
-J
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